People might come up to you and say you are fat, you are dark, you are short, you are this , you are that. When you are growing up in life it actually sort of matters to people how you look. Then it matters to you because it matters to others. Why does it matter how you look?
Because if others don't like you, who will? If they don't accept you, the who will? And you fear that you mightlmight end up lonely for the rest of your life. You believe that you are not good enough. You try to change for others.
When someone tells you, "Dude! You cant do this", you actually believe that you cannot. People put you down and you start believing that you are not good enough. Then you will have 1000s of questions in your mind without any answers.
There are some things in life that are out of your control, that you cannot change. You have no other choice but to live with them. The choice you will have is either to give up or keep going.
What are you going to believe? Are you going to believe in yourself or in other's judgement on you? Are you going to believe when others say no one likes you or no one really cares about you. People might not even look you in the eyes.
To succeed in life or to meet something you have to work hard. It is not that you close your eyes and meditate and in the next moment you are in the spotlight. No. It doesn't work that way. You have to take one step at a time towards success. You can only take one step at a time no matter how big your step is. Try taking two steps at a time and you fall.
Sometimes you take a step in the wrong direction and you fall. What do you do when you fall? Get back up! But there are sometimes in life when you fall face down and you feel like you don't have the strength to get back up. What happens after the fall? You sort of isolates yourself from the rest of the world. You feel pathetic. You pretend everything is okay when it's not. You feel like the safest place on earth, your home, is no longer safe for you. You have no idea what to do next. May be you fear what others think and say about you and that scares you. That fear pushes you into a numb state. You no longer smile or laugh or have fun. The question that comes into your mind is do I have hope? You feel it is impossible to get back up.
If you try 100 times to get back up and you fail and you give up, then are you going to get back up? Absolutely not. But if you keep on trying, the chances of you getting back up is more and it is not the end as long as you don't give up. It doesn't matter how you started or how you are doing now. All that matters is how strong you finish.
When you start losing yourself, you start putting your security in temporary things. You can get drunk all night but when you are sober in the morning you will still have all the problems with a headache added to them. You can get high on drugs to escape reality, but you don't realize that once you are normal you would still be lost.
We depend on three temporary things in life ,namely alcohol, drugs and sex, to escape reality but the fact that you don't understand is that these things actually take you away from your dreams. You will reach a level that these things wouldn't satisfy you and then you start something new. You don't realise that with each new temporary satisfaction that you go in search of, you move closer to the ultimate pit with no bottom. You will keep on falling forever. You will start believing in the lies around you. You will start believing that you are not good enough.
Instead, if you keep doing those things you love doing and not try to escape reality, you will get stronger to fight through the hardships in life. If you are a girl reading this, you should realise that you are beautiful no matter what others feel about it and if you are a boy, you are the MAN.
Life is not always good. Life is not always cherries and butterflies. Everybody around you will push you down. But you can do something about it. Life is worth living when you find a purpose.
Sometimes you might have no idea about the purpose of your life. You help an old man with his luggage, a blind person cross the road, an old woman clean her house, don't you now understand this could be the purpose of your life?
Imagine that you have a problem in your life and you want to give up. You happen to meet a person older than you who has been through the same problem that you have now and yet moving on. Wouldn't that urge you to fight through the problem? You have two choices in your life everyday. You can either tease and gossip about somebody or you can go up to them and encourage them. It can even save a life.
Can you imagine how many around you hate their life or want to shut themselves down forever? A word of encouragement or love or care can even save them. Don't you think it is the greatest purpose of life?
It doesn't matter how you look but the only thing that you should know is loving yourself first and then others can change the idea about life.
